Dr. Sadaty’s Top Quotes
I’ve selected a few particularly well expressed words for my readers this week to get you thinking. Here we go!
“In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.”
—Ruth Bader Ginsburg
We’ve all been there. The object of the thoughtless word or unkind thought. Reacting in anger or annoyance benefits neither party nor does it improve the relationship. I’ve seen my Mom do this “being a bit deaf” bit on several occasions with my Dad, who can be a little hotheaded and stubborn — traits that I find completely unfamiliar and unrecognizable in myself. They’ve been married 54 years. Not a bad run.
Letting go of irritations and grievances aligns with the saying: “would you rather be happy or right?” Not every word, thought or act need be commemorated and mentally jotted down for use as future ammunition. Sometimes it’s just best to go out and have dinner with your girlfriends and move on. Don’t sweat the small stuff goes a long way in longevity and relationship health.
“You can observe a lot by just watching.”
“It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”
Maybe it’s this supercharged election year. Maybe it’s the facelessness and anonymity of social media that shields the author of divisive and inflammatory posts from real life repercussions. It seems that everyone is talking and no one is listening.
I find the old saying “opinions are like A%#holes, everyone has them” says it all. There’s nothing special about or necessarily accurate about your opinion. It may be better to do more listening than judging for a change. RBG and Antonin Scalia managed to create a deep friendship — despite their deep ideological differences. We are all too busy talking AT people and not listening TO people. Maybe try listening for a change. See what happens.
Advice About Health Fads:
“Healthy is an outfit that looks different on everybody.”
Vegetarian? Keto? Intermittent fasting? The all meat diet? Paleo? Juice fasting? Vegan? Weight watchers? Calories are all that matter? Whole 30? HIIT training? Chair yoga? Marathoner? Strength training? Cardio kickbox? What’s right for YOUR body, be it the exercise you should be doing, the food you are eating or the supplements you choose to take, WILL NOT always work for everyone. Health is a personal roadmap. It’s different for everyone. Just like different medications have different side effects in people, nutrition and exercise create different effects depending on the user. The bottom line is: YOU DO YOU!!!
Getting Ahead and Getting What You Want:
“The answer is always ‘no’ when you never ask the question.”
Want a raise? Won’t happen unless you ask.
Want to get to know an acquaintance better? Won’t happen if you never ask them to do something with you or grab a coffee. As Sex in the City’s Samantha Jones said in response to a man seated at a bar blurting out “I’m married!”
“Calm down, I was just going to ask if this seat was taken.”
Want to ask your boss for a change in your job description? Won’t happen when you assume the answer is no.
“Can we sit over there instead of here?” Says my friend Laura at every restaurant we frequent.
The point is: assuming something is too hard, never happening, too risky, too embarrassing…is just plain crazy. Why eliminate the possibility of something without even giving the possibility a fighting chance? ASK THE FREAKING QUESTION!!! You’ll either be better off or in the exact same place you started.
Weight Loss Tip:
“You can’t exercise your way out of a bad diet.”
Time and time again I come across women who “can’t lose weight” despite exercising. Here’s a newsflash:
Exercise doesn’t help you lose weight.
You can pretend it does. You can assuage your guilt about drinking 1-2 glasses of wine a night by playing three hours of tennis a day and strapping yourself to a Peloton at night. But…It’s. Not. Happening. Not eating to your health needs cannot be “counteracted” by exercising. Period. Enough said.
Sex Tip Over 50:
“Have Sex BEFORE dinner, that way you’re not sleepy, bloated and not in the mood AFTER…”
—I think I said that….probably last weekend.
You just can’t argue with this logic. Plus you’ll have a better shot at getting through your nightly face cream routine. Win-win!
Medicine In America:
“The way most doctors practice medicine right now isn’t working.”
We are statistically getting fatter, more depressed, more demented, more pained, more disabled, more autistic, more diabetic, more medicated as a nation and more likely to have cancer and heart disease than at any other time in human history. Which part of that tells us medicine is working? Maybe it’s time to check out alternative approaches for your health.
Create A Bold Vision:
“Hope is not a plan.”
I think Lisa, CEO of Fast Forward, now thinks this is a bit negative sounding and doesn’t say it this way anymore, but it’s on point and the logic is sound.
You can’t “hope for the best” and not take action to make things happen. Hope is optimistic but it’s not an action plan for success. Don’t “just” hope for the best. DO your best to make it happen.
Fill In The Blank:
“The possibility I invent for myself and my life is the possibility of ________.”
How do you express your life in the most created extraordinary invented life? If you had no fear of failure, no fear of judgement, no fear of vulnerability — how do you finish that sentence?
All consuming passionate love?
Amazing relationships with my children?
A career that inspires me on a daily basis?
Sharing my art publicly?
How do you complete that sentence for yourself?
Share it with three people. Enroll them in this vision. When you say this is a goal for yourself, people will hold you accountable. ‘How’s that inspired career plan going?” — “When are you showcasing your photography?”
How are you making that happen?? Declare this to yourself and others. Make good on your word. Holding the space for a new possibility and declaring it to others is step one to a new and exciting vision of your life. Just remember:
“Life is not a dress rehearsal.”
Have fun with these. Get to it.
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Ready for the legal disclaimer? Information offered here is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. As with any health recommendations, please contact your doctor to be sure any changes you wish to consider are safe for you!